Tasha..how?
It’s a question I‘ve been asked often by other Mums. I’m single, I work as finance analyst 37.5 hours a week, I run a small business, studying ACCA and I’m a Mum of 2 toddlers. So how do I really manage?
It’s easy to assume I’m organised, keep a tight schedule, have constant help or I just make it work right?
Wrong.
Where I’m succeeding in one area I’m failing in another.
I’ve got support - physically, not so much emotionally.
In order to be a working Mum I frequently forfeit my presence at assemblies, attend parents evening virtually, and I almost missed the kids’ first day of school.
I’m not proud of the moments I miss, but I know its necessary sometimes. For myself and my family.
On the other hand, activities with the kids means extremely limited screen time for me - so I’ll catch up on orders, emails, studying etc once the kids have a nap or are asleep. Honestly, there are times my sleep or my diet suffers just so I can fit things in. It’s not all doom and gloom though. I have my self care time where I do my nails, lashes, face mask and might even treat myself to glass (or two, three) of baileys on ice whilst watching House of Dragon!
I am determined to be a great Mum and still be me (even if I’m still figuring out who I am).
I’m insistent my children grow up in a world where the stigma of a single parent is irrelevant in their reality. Irrelevant because their Mum lives for them AND herself, that she’s happy. I’ve got my career but I’m also Mummy. I haven’t thrown my dreams away, I’m just working with a different timeline, in fact no timeline, just staying consistent. I’m eager to make my children proud and encourage them to be ambitious. Especially In a world with so many limiting beliefs - I want them to be over-comers and I want them happy.
I’d like them both to cultivate a deep respect for everyone, especially Mothers. For both to see me as a mere reminder that there is no limit to their capabilities.
By no means am I trying to portray a strong and independent character. I believe they need to learn how to conquer adversities in life, but they also need to acknowledge they are only human; susceptible to emotions and that is ok.
Having it all (career & family), doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to work for you and yours.
T x
